Sunday, 23 May 2010
Is dating harder or easier for us now than it was for our parents generation?
My parents have been together since he was invited to her 18th birthday party. That was over 30 years ago. My best friends parents have been together forever as well when they met 27 years ago. Our parents met each other in a generation where there was no Internet, social networking sites, internet dating sites, mobile phones and other forms of electronic communication and gadgets. This was where the only way to contact someone was to go and see them in person or call them up on a land line telephone number.
Does having too many different ways to communicate and find the man or woman of our dreams, make it more difficult and more complicated? There are just so many ways and things we have to check just to see if that someone has tried to get in touch with us. Drew Barrymore's character in 'He's just not that into you' sums it up perfectly. “I had this guy leave me a voicemail at work, so I called him at home, and then he emailed me to my BlackBerry, and so I texted to his cell, and now you just have to go around checking all these different portals just to get rejected by seven different technologies. Its exhausting.” And she was right it is exhausting. But at the same time is it easier for us to date people now. I mean we can meet people in a bar or club but we can also meet people online. Get to know people before we even meet them in person. But does it take away those buterfly's you get when a guy starts chatting you up. Meeting someone out of a crowded room and sharing that look. The look where you see each other for the first time and are instantly attracted to each other.
So I'll leave you to come to your own conclusions on if you think it is easier for us now, than it was for our parents. I personally think it may not be easier. But I do think its better now. To have access to all different way of meeting new people. Be it for a relationship, or even just a simple way of meeting new friends. People you would not meet normally, be it romanticly or otherwise.