Friends

Some friends you just know from the minute you meet them you are going to be friends for a long time. These are the friends that like every bit of you. The strange sides of you that your family knows and loves you for. Friends are there for you when you are down, Pick you up when you are having a bad day. Tell you everything is going to be ok, even when it doesn't look like it is possible.

The best friendships are not always the ones you've had for years. Sometimes, the best friendships are ones that are stil young. The ones you meet when you are becoming 'an adult'. These are the friendships that know you through some harder times, for example the death of a loved one, instead of crying over that first boy who pulled your hair.

I love my girls (and boys) alot you guys know who you are :)

LMM
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Character Development

I have spent the last couple of days really dedicating some time to my writing. While I have planned out each chapter for my book I have only been using it as a template, seeing how the story unfolds. I have been investing so much time and energy into these characters that they are starting to feel like real people. I'm amazed though at myself though at how well I have developed them each individually.

Developing each of these characters though got me thinking about individual development. How we develop our own character all the time. We are constantly changing things and learn for all different aspects of our life. Sometimes getting to know a certain individual can change your individual character.

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Therapy in the written word.

I take great pleasure in writing. I love everything about the written word and the power the written can have on an individual. It has come as no surprise to me that (in my eyes at least) my writing as improved a lot in the last couple of months. Writing for me has always at the heart been therapeutic.

If I look back at the first 'story' I wrote, im not surprised that the adolescent version of myself was fighting for my voice to be heard in the crowd. I have never been particularly outgoing by nature (though that has changed the older I have gotten) and I think my writing gives me the freedom to do that. The more I have experienced in my life both the good and the bad, has also made me both a stronger writer and person because of it.

When I'm telling a story I can get deeply invested in the characters. It comes as no surprise to me that at least one of my characters in all of my books is, however loosely, more often than not channelling my outlook on life at any given time. Sometimes its a positive character trait, but sometimes it can be a negative, depressing character trait.

It comes as no surprise to me then when reading through my book I have been writing over the last couple of months, that I feel I am doing my most positive and best writing I have ever read by myself. For the first time in months I am truly at peace with myself. And while I admit that I am jealous of my leading female character I think that has more to do with the fact that I know its not beyond the realm of possibility. The possibility that there is someone out there for everyone. As I have mentioned earlier I am treading on new ground with this story, but I feel creative. I feel happy. I feel that good things can happen. I feel that life and not everyone wants or can see the negativity. That is certainly the case for my two leading characters.

Dreams only come true if you are willing to have a little faith in yourself.

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Does Life begin at 25?

I must admit that this latest post was inspired by a post by my good friend Miss Mulhall. When we are younger we alwys thought that our life would begin at 18. Its when your old enough to vote, your first classed as an adult. But I don't think thats really the case.

I think life begins at 25. Now then I'm not just saying this because I'm 25. At 25 you've finnished the accedemic side of your life, if thats the route you've chosen to take. You start to become the person you are going to be as an adult. Weather you choose to be career orinated or weather you choose to become family orinated. Now then thats not to say if you start a family you dont want a career and vice versa. But when you are in your 20's you definitely experience different things.

I am much happier in my 20's than the teenage version of myself. I think you become more comfortable in yourself, because you've experienced more.

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Return of a friend

Really excited to hear that my good friend will back on British soil in around 15 days. I just love those friends that know you better than you know yourself. Those friends that are still your friends even though you can be a little quirky at times. Friends that even when you do stupid things like falling over your own feet (girls we have all done this) they look at you and know that you are just being you.

My friend is one of the most supportive friends I have. Because even though we lost touch for 3 years when he went to uni, when we did meet up again it was like we had only spoke a week before.

Any way must get back to writting my book. So byes for now.

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Do gentlemen really prefer blondes?

I dyed my hair last night. It got me thinking, when ever I have been a blonde I have always wanted, and always loved going back to my more natural colour, chesnut brown. I feel better in it. My mum though said I always want to change my hair colour drastically when I come off a breakup or when Im in the mood for a change in my lfe. While the first can be classed as sort off true, my dear mum was deffinitly right on the latter. Im deffintly going through some changes at the moment and I personally always feel better after changing my hair, so since I am very happy with the length (for the first time in ages) a change in colour may be just what the doctor ordered.



So while there have been many iconic fabulous blondes that have been many a boys fantacy for years, brunettes have a certain elegence about them.



So now I will have no come back to all my stupid 'blonde' moments. And FYI yes I did use L'Oreiele 'cos "I'm worth it." Happy weekend people.

California Dreaming!

So after having in what my mind was one of the worse weeks in my 9 year professional career. (And the 2nd post in todays ha ha.) I decided to plan ahead for my LA trip (18 months away) but hey I'm a girl on a budget :). It has made super excited and I'm trying to figure out how I'm going to fit it all in.

So without further a do I think I have my trips kind of sorted. Im thinking: Los Angeles city tour, Paley Centre, SeaWorld (love love love dolphins), a beach trip (unsure on current location). The hotel is still a working progress as I'm looking for something a little central.

Planning this trip has totally cheered me up. Not that drinks the other night didn't do the trick, this was more of something to look forward to. At least the worrying can now stop on the job front.

So with my love afair with America now in serious planning stages I can begin to concerntrait on my book. With negitivity out of my life this is the new possitive thinking Lisa, at least for now. Its anybody's guess as to how long this lasts for :)

So in the words of Pantom Planet "California, Here we come."

Lisa Marie

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Negativity is a 10 letter word!

The power of possitive thinking has taken hold of me today. That has much to do with my wonderful 'date' last night with a close friend. We both came to the connclussion over vodka and Jack Daniels that, by waiting around possitive things are not going to just fall into place. Sometime removing the things that are depressing, or the people who hold you down is the first important step in making you feel positive. Everybody has those people in there life who always make you feel bad about yourself. Some come in the forms of romantic partners, some in the forms of friends, and some come in the form of work collegues.
While it isn't possible to be able to remove all of the people who bring you down, sometimes you have to look at how things can be improved, limit the time you spend with that person for example. Again some people you are best cutting out of your life completely. Those people who say they are your friends but continue to make you feel either like a child or make you feel that you are in some way a lesser citizen to them. These are the people who you dont need around. I can guantee the outcome will only be good. Sure you might loose a large number of friends but is it really worth feeling down and depressed by so-called friends. No its not. You are never going to be able to change these people, so the best thing for you to do is be the better person and not put up with that anymore.



In your 20's you should be living your life to the fullest and while our parents are from a different generation, and dont understand how things work as a 20 something in 2009, we must look out for ourselfs and be the people we want to be and not the people our 'friends' 'lovers' 'collegues' think we should be.



Everybody deserves to be happy and nobody should pretend to be someone else. Its what makes us unique.



Lisa Marie

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Men & there Lies!

Men. They come in various shapes and sizes. Some you let into your heart and some you don't. I have never been a huge dater. At school I was more interested in spending time with my friends than having some huge need to have a boyfriend. At 21 I fell in love for the first time. He's a guy I will always have a special place in my heart. And while i have 'dated' a fair bit since I can genuinly say I have never loved another guy.
A couple of months ago now I broke up with my ex and was suprised at how easy it had been. As much as when we were together I thought he was someone very special, after we broke up I stopped seeing him through rose tinted glasses. Today we did the swap over giving each other back our stuff. And upon seeing the ex i felt nothing at all. It was a bit awkward which I knew it would be. But at the same time i felt nothing. He wanted to remain friends after and as much as he said thats what he wanted he lied to many on any number of IM chats. It was at that point I went from wanting to be friends with the guy to not trusting a single word that came out of his mouth. Men lie. We all know this. What I am surprised at is that in some way this surprised me.
So the new me is putting this last 'relationship' behind me and is ready to move on. So while this will probably not be the last time that pick myself and move on to 'the next guy' at least it will make me grow as a person. Much like this last breakup did.

LisaMarie
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Music & Storytelling...

Just taking sometime out of my busy writting day to update the blog. After having a couple of weeks of unsuccessful writting and rather depressing storytelling on my part I am please to have finally finished chapter 3 of my new book. Music has been a huge influence on my writting over the last couple of months. I've now come to the conclussion that due to the happy nature of my story I have had completely go through my itunes and find some a little more inspiring. No coldplay, U2, Bruce or The Cure are not going to be very helpfull to me at the moment.

So must get back as my characters are a calling.

LisaMarie
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